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Struggle 1: making friends

As you’ve already guessed, today we’re gonna be talking about friendship.

In my previous post – in the summer bucket list, to be exact – one of the items was

To make at least 5 friends

But I forgot to mention HOW exactly to make them.

Many people nowadays feel lonely due to the lack of friends.I’m not an exception, really.For some reason, I find it super hard to find a suitable person.It seems like the only one I can be true friends with – is a clone of myself ( who obviously doesn’t exist)
But is it really that difficult??

Here are some tips that will help you with that:
1) Do not be too choosy
It’s a common mistake that a lot of people make.When we see a person for the first time, it’s usually their appearance that determines whether we want to come and start a conversation or not.
But it is definitely not right! When choosing a boyfriend or a girlfriend, we can pay attention to how the person looks like, but definitely not in this case! Remember, the nationality, height, appearance and other details don’t really matter – if you guys are soulmates, nothing can change that.
2)Balance between speaking and listening
Always try to keep this balance, otherwise one of you will get bored.There shouldn’t be any dominant speaker in your conversation,( as well as in your friendship).You two have equal rights to listen and to be listened to.
3)Do not try to seem any cooler than you actually are
It sounds so corny, but still  — BE YOURSELF.You won’t be able to pretend throughout your friendship – eventually, you will have to show your real self.If the person doesn’t like you – don’t worry! There are lots of people out there willing to accept you as you are.
4) The more friends – the better
Don’t be lavish with friends.The more you have them the better.If you’ve made a really good friend – don’t think that it’s enough and you do not need the others anymore.Anything can happen, and the most distant friend can become your closest one, and vice versa.
5)Take your time
Getting to know a person is not a quick thing to do.It takes quite a lot of time.We always wish that we could skip to the part where we’re comfortable with each other.But all the best friends were once just strangers to each other – and as the time passed by, they’ve become very close.

I really hope that some of my tips helped you, or encouraged you not to give up and keep looking!
Please let me know if you’ve read my post (just leave a comment, or subscribe – whatever works for you) and I’ll be happy to post more!
xxx
Dolly

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